So for in this series we've covered confidence and self esteem as well as redefining what that looks like through the lens of Christ. (Check out those post here, here, and here).
So in this post we'll discuss why do we need both?
Self- esteem is the value that you assign to yourself which in turn fuels your ability to present yourself to the world around you with confidence. One is absolutely essential to the other.
In order to understand our dire need for a confidence and esteem centered on Christ we have to acknowledge that we emotional by default, and our emotions can often lead us astray. Particularly as women we tend to be cyclical in nature with our emotions. You might have a good week here, a bad week there, PMS could make that two bad weeks, but you can't ride the wave and let your confidence and self-esteem rely solely on your feelings.
For Example: Julia (not a real person) was the bomb.com in high school. She was the It girl. She was popular with great skin and hair, and great body to match. She was used to being the girl all the other girls wanted to be like, and all the boys wanted to be with. Julia graduates, gets married and has four children in a few short years. Her life still ‘looks’ perfect. But Julia isn’t used to looking like a frazzled mom. She hadn’t quite gotten used to the 20lbs she gained in love before she could adjust to the extra weight from her pregnancies. In her heart she knew that her husband and children were a blessing. For the first time in her life her confidence was not just low, it was completely gone. Based on external circumstances she found herself feeling unworthy, unattractive, less than, and undesirable…. all because her confidence and self-esteem was not rooted in anything below the surface.
Let’s use another example: Sara (also not a real person) was all that and a bag of chips in high school and college. She has succeeded and excelled in more areas than she can count. Her room, at her parents’ house, is full of awards and rewards touting her accomplishments. She graduates college with honors and 2 degrees only to find herself overqualified for any job in her field. So with student debt mounting she finally accepts a desk job that is many levels below her pay grade. She can feel her sense of worth diminishing quickly. Sara’s days have brought nothing but monotony, and the challenges she used to thrive on are no more. She often finds herself struggling with the same feelings of unworthiness as Julia (mentioned in the example above,) because her confidence and esteem as well were not rooted in something deeper.
Life will always be full of twist and turns. There will be joy and triumphs as well as overwhelming challenges and obstacles. It is possible for our identity to remain intact as we navigate life. These examples are meant for us to see our deep need for Christ to be the rock solid foundation upon which our confidence can be rooted in, and grounded on in order to become unshakeable.
By re-evaluating yourself according to Christ confidence you can learn to become the silent observer of the things that goes around you because you know who you are on the inside. Even when you find your confidence swaying or wavering because of what's going on outside, you always have the foundation of who you are in Christ to be centered on. You always have that rock and that strength on the inside of you.
The point of this journey is that your confidence begins, ends, and stays the same depending on who God says you are in Christ. You can wholly depend on these truths because His Word never changes. The Word of God is constant. It provides a due North compass for everything else that we may come up against. Using this as your compass you can always be guided, redirected, and centered on who God says you are. He says You are the light of world. You are a royal priesthood. You are chosen. You were called to do great things. You were formed in your mother’s womb. God saw fit to make for you all the wonderful things he created in this universe with a purpose that will bring Him glory!
Thank you so much for reading through this series! I hope that it has given you some things to think on in terms of how you view yourself. I wanted to finish off by leaving you with a prayer to help you as you begin to see yourself through the eyes of Jesus!