So at this point in the series I'm going to marry the concept of confidence and self esteem. If you haven't read the previous post you can begin here and here...
What is Self Esteem?
Self-esteem is defined by your overall opinion of yourself — how you feel about your abilities and limitations. When you have healthy self-esteem, you feel good about yourself and see yourself as deserving the of the respect of others. When you have low self-esteem, you put little value on your opinions and your ideas.
For the sake of clarity please understand that confidence and self-esteem are not the same thing. For all intents and purposes confidence and self-esteem hold hands and hug, they love each other- if you don't have one the other won’t last long. If you don't have confidence in your ability to carry out certain task, eventually that is going to have a negative impact on your self-esteem. The opposite is also true, if you are not feeling good about yourself that impacts your ability to operate successfully in the world around you.
There are some interesting variables when investigating self- confidence and self- esteem. If your self-esteem is low your confidence will be low. You can have temporarily high confidence and still have low self-esteem but eventually the confidence will fade. It is not possible to have high self-esteem and have low confidence. It does not work because what is going on in your internal self eventually manifests itself externally.
There is a healing that must take place within you in order to unify both confidence and self- esteem. Although they are distinct in nature if you heal in one area, you will heal the other. If confidence is being certain in your abilities and your belief that you can be successful; then self-esteem is your overall opinion of yourself. Self- esteem affects how you feel about your abilities and your limitations. When you have healthy self-esteem you feel good about yourself- you don’t belittle your value, opinions or ideas.
Just like we exchanged confidence for Christ confidence earlier, let’s exchange Self- esteem for Christ Esteem. That looks something like this:
Christ’ -esteem is defined by Christ’s overall opinion of you- How HE feels about your abilities (Phil 4:13) and your limitations(2 Cor 21:9). When you have a healthy Christ- esteem you feel good about who God made you to be. You know without a doubt that you are worthy and deserving of every good thing. You no longer have low self- esteem because you now have Christ- esteem.
On a level from 1-10 how do you feel about your self esteem levels?
In the next post I'll talk more about how confidence and self esteem work together. Check it out here...