What Confidence is NOT (if you haven't read the first post, check it out here).
Before we can fully understand what confidence is, lets take a quick look at what it is NOT.
Confidence is not: your clothes, shoes, body type, income, hair, weight, children, or car. It is not likes on Facebook. It is not the newest latest or greatest whatever. It is not based on someone else’s words, thoughts, or opinions of you, be that of your family, husband, mom, dad, or best friend. Side note: the value and opinions of others must line up with what God says about you in order for you to receive it as truth .
Opinions should not shape who you are, but as women, when we are not confident and do not have our self-esteem intact we base our value solely on the opinions of others. We have been programmed to place weight from external circumstances into our internal environment, when it should be other way around. In reality, our internal environment should dictate our external circumstance.
The goal from this point forward is to establish a rock solid foundation on the inside of you. To build upon a concrete source of strength that cannot be shaken, stirred, or moved.
So what is confidence?
Confidence in the Merriam Webster dictionary is defined as:
The feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; it is firm trust.
Self-confidence is defined as:
Having confidence in oneself
For the sake of this series the definition of Confidence is:
The feeling or belief that one can rely on God through Jesus Christ; to have a Firm foundation of trust in His unfailing word
Therefore, Christ Confidence - (as opposed to confidence or self-confidence)-
is having a firm trust; confidence in who Christ made you to be.
Now that we have a clear definition of Confidence it is important that we understand that it is rooted in the need to feel correct, valued, best, or effective. Confidence is based on the internal need to feel significant or important.
We will dig deeper into this in the next post.
For now, let’s take it a step further and gain more clarity surrounding confidence by understanding how it is directly linked to self-esteem.
Check out the next post here...